What do you do when you’re faced with a difficult woman? One of those terribly stereotypical ones who cause men to say “all women hate each other blah blah blah.” What to do? My usual reaction with difficult people, men and women, is to bug the hell out of them until they somehow become my friend. (It usually works - I can be likable when I want to.) This one though, I don’t know what to do. I’ve tried to be nice and helpful and inclusive and have failed spectacularly on all accounts. She is only friends with, and there’s no other way to put this, women who are professionally “beneath” her in the pecking order of this joint. No peers (such as me) at all, not even one. I CAN’T STAND IT WHEN PEOPLE DON’T LIKE ME. And, I really can’t stand it when men sneer and say “you women never get along” which is absolutely not true, as I work with more women then men at the moment and we all (with the glaring exception) get along very well.
As a feline, I know something about cattiness. You have two options here: 1) ignore her or 2) kill her with kindness. Be nice to your enemies, it confuses them. Also, as a social experiment, observe her and figure out why she acts that way. It will give you some insight into cracking that little egg. Or, maybe she’s just a mean nasty troll. -MATC